I love babies. That’s why I think of all of you as my babies too, bachche. But I am not the kind of aunty who will tell you to have a baby. Because I know that babies cannot handle babies. So, like our dear Radhika Apte and many others before her, you should also wait to grow up before you start producing your offspring. It sounds obvious to everyone but follow kahaan hota hai yeh, beta ji? Everyone still thinks ki 30 ke pehle, women should have kids. But 30 ke pehle, akal hoti hai kisi ko to take any big life decisions? Boss se appraisal maangne mein toh haath-paer thande ho jaate hain aapke. How will you handle parenthood and all the kalesh that comes with it?

Anyway, if you’re still not convinced (ignoring the disrespect), here’s why you should grow up before having a baby.

Check your bank account

Hai usmein kuchh? Can you pay a school fee out of it? Can you buy diapers? Chalo chhodo yeh sab, can you book a cab without thinking ki abhi time hai salary aane mein, metro hi le lete hain? Growing up means being a lot more financially stable and not coming down to four figures by the 20^th of every month. Because babies may be small but they are the biggest kharcha you will ever make. Second only to an apartment in Gurgaon.

What was your last fight with your partner?

Imagine the last fight you had with your partner, the person with whom you want to raise a human being. Was it about something awful like kisne raat ko fridge khulla chhod diya? How long did you both not talk to each other? Did you resolve your fight by sending each other reels and just ignoring the terrible things you said to each other? Now imagine a screaming baby in this situation and check your stress levels. If any of this applies to you, ruk jao, beta ji. You’re not mature enough to have a child.

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Do you still think “my daddy is bestest”?

Kisi ke “bestest” nahi hote, bachche. Daddies and mummies are also human beings and every human being is flawed in some way. Maturity is not in putting your parents on a pedestal. Maturity is understanding what your parents did right and wrong and incorporating the best of it in your ideas of parenting. And while you’re at it, take the idea of all-sacrificing mummies and put it in the dustbin where it belongs. Mummies don’t have to sacrifice their own khushiyan for their babies. They can be good mummies without being dukhi aatmas.

Can you cook?

Betis, side ho jao for this. Betas, this is for you. Can you cook? Can you clean? Can you maintain a healthy household without any help? Because parenthood means partnership. And partnership mein, everything can’t come crashing down if one person is unavailable. Anyone can handle babies as long as they aren’t imprisoned by the chains of gender roles. But if you still think your wife will do all the parenting while you share dad jokes on WhatsApp, you still have some growing up to do, beta ji.

Be like Radhika Apte. Settle ho jao in life properly, then have babies. You don’t have to throw away all your protection just because you’re turning 29 soon. Enjoy the perks of adulthood before going right back to diapers and school.

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