Sex should make you go ooh and aah with pleasure. So, why are you moaning in pain during sex? Is it because your man is very well-endowed, or is it because your vagina is too small? It’s neither, sweetheart. It isn’t your anatomy that’s to blame, but rather a few other issues. Sex shouldn’t hurt unless you want it to. So, let’s find out why sex hurts, shall we, darlin’?
You have a medical condition
Medical conditions like PCOD, endometriosis, uterine fibroids, or irritable bowel syndrome can cause pain when you have penetrative sex. In cases like uterine fibroids, the external growth on the uterus can be affected when you have penetrative sex, or in the case of PCOD, a cyst may burst leading to pain. Women who suffer from IBS are likely to feel pain in the pelvis during sex.
You have an infection
If you have any kind of infection in your genitals, you should avoid sex, be it a bacterial infection, yeast infection, or an STD. These infections cause sensitivity in your nether regions and inflammation of the vaginal tissue which gets aggravated when you have penetrative sex.
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There’s no lubrication
Vaginal dryness is a common reason for pain during sex. This could be due to some medicines like antihistamines or hormonal birth control. These medications lead to the drying of the vagina which causes pain during penetration. And if you skip lube, it’s only going to cause microtears in the vaginal tissue.
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You’re dealing with vaginismus
Vaginismus is the automatic tightening of the vaginal muscles. You have no control over it, and it is an automatic response of your body due to fear of penetration. There are also likely to be involuntary muscle spasms in the vagina during or after sex in case you suffer from vaginismus.
You’re dealing with hormonal imbalance
One thing a lot of women have in abundance is hormonal issues. PCOS, premenopausal, and postnatal hormones play havoc on women’s bodies. And in such cases, pain during sex is common. So, don’t think you’re doing something wrong, it’s just your hormones acting up, sweetheart.
You have skin problems
Did you shave wrong, chica? Or did you decide to indulge in the sweet-smelling body wash you saw at the mall? Looks like all of it is causing some irritation down below because that is a definite cause of pain while you have sex.
You skipped foreplay
Listen, munchkin, as women, we need some extensive foreplay to get our engines roaring. So, let your man know to spend some time turning you on. If you and your partner want to enjoy penetrative sex, foreplay is a must. Otherwise, you’ll be crying in pain and not screaming in pleasure.
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This is not to say people with penises can’t have pain. Of course, they too can feel pain before or after sex, especially if there is tearing in the foreskin, deformities of the penis, or if they have STIs.
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