Scour through the internet, and you’ll get multiple articles on how to make a relationship work. Communicate better, treat each other with respect, et cetera et cetera. But how exactly do you ruin a relationship? What should a relationship NOT look like? Whether the internet gives you the answer or not, the Bigg Boss 17 house will definitely give you the answers. So, if you are actively trying to sabotage your relationship, here are all the ways you can do that, feat. the lovebirds of BB17.
1. Mock your partner in public
Now, if you are actively trying to sabotage your relationship, take a cue from Aishwarya Sharma and mock your partner on national television. And if you can’t make it to national TV, mock them in front of your friends, family or even in public. Make faces when they try to explain something to you or share their feelings. Make a mockery of their viewpoints, and behave like the two-year-old child you know is alive in you. You know the drill.
2. Take your partner for granted
This is the absolute best way to ruin your relationship. Nobody likes being taken for granted, so that’s exactly what you need to do to piss your partner off. Exactly how Vicky Jain behaves with Ankita Lokhande. Also, remember, don’t acknowledge your partner in public. Let the world know your partner isn’t your partner and make them feel shitty about your relationship, exactly what Isha Malviya did when Samarth Jurel entered the Bigg Boss 17 house. Remember when Isha said, “Nahi hai tu mera boyfriend. Dost hai,” only to later retract her statement, and say, “I am sorry, yaar. Mere ko nahi samajh aaya. Kar liya maine accept.”
3. Disrespect your partner
Respect, what in the name of holy heaven is that? Disrespect is the key to a bad relationship. Don’t forget to tell your partner, “Zindagi mein mujhe tu toh kuchh de nahi paayi. Kam se kam mujhe dimaag ki shanti hi de de.” Vicky has been a shining example of disrespecting your partner and that is the way to go if you want to be the poster child of a bad relationship.
4. Blame your partner for your mistakes
Accountability is not a concept that exists in bad relationships. It is all about blaming your partner. When someone gives you any advice about your behaviour, the first thing you need to do is blame your partner and roll your eyes. It’s not your fault. Of course, it’s your partner’s fault for not being their real self and being calm and quiet in front of the public and villainising you. Like Aishwarya told Neil, “Ghar pe, you are different, yahaan pe, you are totally different. Yahaan pe tu chup ho jaata hai kyunki cameras hain. That’s why people can’t see you shouting at me and I am the only one who is becoming a villain here.”
5. Verbally abuse your partner
Talking politely to your partner is so outdated. The new thing is verbally abusing them left, right, and centre. Talk down to them, tell them to fuck off and remind them how shitty they are. Take cues from Abhishek Kumar and do your due diligence. Look at how he lashes out at his ex-girlfriend, Isha Malviya. That’s the way to go if you wanna sabotage your relationship, darling.
6. Physically abuse your partner
What is this normal behaviour of not hitting your partner, sweetie? Kick them, push them away, hit them, and be violent. That’s the way to go with a bad relationship. Ankita Lokhande, Aishwarya Sharma and Abhishek Kumar have some great tips on how to do it. If you can’t learn even this much from Bigg Boss 17, what are you even doing?
7. Gaslight your partner
Never make your partner feel like they are always right. That’s Stone Age behaviour. Make them believe they are always wrong, even if the real culprit is you. Let them know, very clearly, how they are the ones making you feel bad. Remember how Aishwarya Sharma repeatedly told her husband Neil Bhatt how he is behaving cordially with her, while she is being real? Her husband’s good behaviour was the reason she looked like a villain. How could he behave like a good boy while his wife looked like Komolika? Also, take a look at Vicky’s behaviour with Ankita. How could she even share her emotions with her husband only for the host of the show to tell him he is being toxic? “Aap mere se, koshish karke, agar theek se ho sake toh kar lijiyega. Aap nahi karengi toh bhi main nahi karunga. Kyunki mujhe yeh bola gaya hai ki, bhai, aapko kuch bhi ho toh aap apna response nahi dikha sakte ho. Toh main nahi dikhaunga. I just want to be silent, kyunki main mere upar yeh cheez nahi lena chahta…Aap wife ho, aap right ho, aap kabhi trigger nahi kar sakti.”
8. “Use” your partner
What do you mean you can only use things like hand towels and water bottles? The real thing you “use” is your partner. The way Samarth Jurel uses his girlfriend Isha is a perfect example for you to follow. Why is he with Isha? Because he is using her, duh!
9. Don’t give any emotional support to your partner
What even is emotional support? Why do emotions even need support? Have you ever seen Vicky providing any emotional support to his wife? No, right? Because that’s how a perfectly poor relationship functions.
Dekho bhai, the Bigg Boss 17 house is a treasure trove of lessons for you on how to ruin a perfectly good relationship. But, before any of it, the first thing you gotta do is enter the Bigg Boss house with your partner. And if that is really far out of your reach, we have gathered all the lessons you need to ruin your relationship. What else can you ask for?