Imagine this – you are wearing your sexiest lingerie, fully ready to get raunchy. But your man can’t get it up. Awkward! Let me introduce you to performance anxiety. It’s not because your guy isn’t hot for you; it’s just that he is anxious about your bedroom activities. Now, this performance anxiety could be because of a couple of things. First, having unrealistic expectations of sex, all thanks to internet porn, and second, an overwhelming pressure to satisfy you. So, what do you do when your partner is feeling the pressure? Here are a few tips that can help them deal with performance anxiety.

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Hype him up outside the bedroom

The thing with performance anxiety is that it often starts outside the bedroom and not actually when you are having sex. So, before you even start getting down to the act, hype your man up. Compliment his cute butt, tell him how much he means to you, and make sure to let him know how happy he makes you. These little will drive up his confidence more than anything else.

Acknowledge his feelings

Don’t invalidate his feelings by saying something like, ‘That’s okay, don’t worry about it.’ It’s not gonna help, sweetheart. You will only add to his pressure. Instead, accept that he is worried and ask how you can help him feel better.

Focus on foreplay instead of sex

It is usually the act of sex that causes performance anxiety. So, focus on foreplay and other forms of intimacy instead of sex. Give an erotic massage, take a bath together, make out with each other, or indulge in mutual masturbation.

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Eliminate stress

A major cause of performance anxiety is stress, not just about sex but also in other spheres of your life. So, do what you can to eliminate stress from your life. Exercise, meditate, watch a movie, listen to music, and do whatever helps you deal with stress.

Express your needs

Learn what you need and communicate it to your partner. If you think something isn’t working, let your partner know. And if there’s something that you like, ask them to do more of it. Moreover, focus on what you can do instead of what you think you should do. Honest communication is one of the best ways to deal with performance anxiety.

Seek professional help

There is no shame or harm in seeking help. So, if you can’t figure out what’s causing your performance anxiety, a sex therapist can do it for you. After all, this help could take your sex life to its peak.

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