Whether you’re living with them or not, you need to be comfortable with your in-laws. They can make or break your life, bachche. I’ve already taught you a lot about nanads and mothers-in-law. Now, I’m going to tell you a little bit about fathers-in-law. That’s right. You might think that sasur ji will be the least bothersome for you but, beta ji, sasurs can be real asurs. Here are a few red flags that every bride should look out for in her future father-in-law.

He talks over his wife

This should be a no-brainer for aaj kal ke bachche, but who knows kiski akal kaunsa ghaans charne gayi hai? So, I must explain. If a man doesn’t respect his wife, the mother of his children, please know, bachche, that he will never respect you. Or even think of you as an equal to his son. This is a man who thinks women should keep quiet when the mards are talking. And don’t even try to be the revolutionary jo sab theek kar degi. This is not a movie, bete. Sunni hoti toh he would’ve listened to his wife, not his son’s wife. One of the biggest red flags in fathers-in-law.

His kids seem scared of him

Discipline is one thing, but an adult child should not be scared of their parents. A man who is ready to get married should be able to defy his father when necessary and make his own life decisions. If your shohar-to-be goes running to papa for approval on everything, your life will also be the same after marriage. Aapko kya lagta hai? Do you really think your husband will listen to his papa but you will be a khulle aasmaan ki panchhi? Delulu ki bhi hadd hoti hai, my dear.

He treats his daughter and son differently

This should also ring alarm bells for you. Inheritance se thoda aagey socho and think of how screwed up these kinds of families are. If the beti is treated as inferior to the beta of the family, khud hi soch lo where the bahu will stand. Apart from all the misogyny you will face, there is another downside to marrying into such a family. You will become the villain for your sister-in-law because she will see you as an extension of her over-privileged brother. So if you’re marrying for money and think saari jaaydaad will be yours, be prepared to sacrifice every inch of your sanity in the process.

He has the ladkewala stance when he meets your parents

This will need some serious observation skills from you, bachche. If the man is saying all the right things like yeh toh bahu nahi, beti hai, but showing some serious attitude in his posture around your parents, please know that he doesn’t mean a single sanskaari word coming out of his mouth. He thinks he is superior because his wife birthed a son and thinks your parents should feel obliged to him. You are a bojh on your parents in his eyes and he is doing them a huge favour by letting you marry his son. A man will hardly ever recognise this in another man, let alone in his father. So, this is one of the red flags in fathers-in-law you have to watch out for by yourself.

Keep life simple, beta ji. If you see any of these red flags in your father-in-law or anything else that feels off, make your decision keeping only your happiness in mind. Everyone else will adjust after a few months of rona-pitna. You do you, my angel.

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