Sometimes, bachche, I get to hear really infuriating stories from young dukhiyaari didis. Like this one in particular. Shaadi na ho gayi, internship hi ho gayi. And that too unpaid. Forget unpaid, this didi had to go through the kind of internship where you pay the company (aka sasuraal) to just keep you around. Ghaata hi ghaata all around.

Listen to her story here.

“Mujhe pyaar nahi, sirf ek achchi biwi chahiye“

 

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This is hardly a unique situation for us, haina? So, I have the best solutions for how to deal with a toxic mother-in-law with no support from husband. Ab life experience ka kuchh toh faayda hona chahiye na after all these years.

Ghar par focus karo

Listen to your mother-in-law, bachche. Ghar par focus karo. Focus on bettering your life in a place you truly call home. Your actual ghar is yourself. And if you’re not happy in life, you won’t be happy even in the most comfortable mansion. So, ghar par focus karo and shut down anything that doesn’t make you happy. Many times, dukhiyaari didis forget that if they have a fear of log kya kahenge, in-laws like these also harbour the same fears. Make this conditioning work for you and make your in-laws worry ki tum kya kahogi unke baare mein.

Open your mouth in front of relatives or neighbours a few times and apne aap line par aa jayenge.

Maa ko khush rakho

Bilkul khush rakho maa ko. Your own maa, I mean. Not a loser’s hand-me-down. If his maa is so precious to him, he should take care of her na? How can he just palm her off to you? You don’t know anything about her and they don’t know much about you. Raja beta only knows what he’s been told during the rishta meeting. Take advantage of his lack of cognitive abilities and take care of his maa like you would take care of any other stranger. You know what I mean.

Sab log adjust kar lenge

Your husband is right, bachche. Sab log adjust kar lete hain when you start living the way you want to live. If they think your friends and family will adjust to his isolating techniques, you need to tell your friends and family to show up for you more. They need to barge their way into your life and put an end to this man’s abuse. Also, your husband and his parents also count as log. So, do what you want to do, get a job, meet your friends whenever you want, stay with your parents for weeks, and let this muhbola raja and his rajmata adjust to you.

If you need tips on how to deal with a toxic mother-in-law, how to handle husband, or how to tackle any other problem in life, reach out to your most trusted aunty, bachche. Aunty Eve doesn’t judge, she only corrects.

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