Falling in love is magical – the constant giddiness, butterflies in the stomach, dreaming of the time you’ll spend with your lover, it’s all happy and exciting. But there’s a lot more to love than just the butterflies, darling. A true relationship sustains past the giddy stage and sees a lot of ups and downs. And if you reach a point where even the thought of your partner is annoying AF, you might just be on your way to falling out of love. But what exactly does falling out of love look like? Here are a few signs you should be looking out for.
1. You don’t want to spend time with them
From wanting to spend every moment of every day together, you reach a point where you are actively avoiding your partner. You no longer want to spend time with them and look for excuses to avoid them as much as possible. It’s great to have individual interests in a healthy relationship. You don’t need to spend 24/7 together, but if you start dreading every date night with your partner, it’s time to reevaluate your relationship, poppet.
2. You don’t care about them much
It is human nature to worry about the people we love. So, if you find yourself being indifferent to your partner, that’s a sure sign of falling out of love. You no longer care if they return your call or reply to your messages. You don’t even care if they are avoiding you because you are doing the same. Your emotional attachment has diminished to zero and things that you cared about before no longer hold the same importance.
3. Physical intimacy is no longer there
Sex is an important part of a relationship, my dear, and if you aren’t getting laid anymore, that’s a sign of trouble. Unless both partners have mutually decided to stop having sex for reasons like a low sex drive, lack of intimacy is a sign you have fallen out of love. And intimacy is not just about sex, it is also about kisses, holding hands, and touching each other for no reason. Touch is a way for people to communicate care and desire for each other, and once the touching stops, there’s a distance in the relationship.
4. They are no longer a priority
In a healthy relationship, your partner is one of your major priorities. So, if you see them out of your priority list, that spells trouble. You no longer think of them, what makes them happy, or what actions can cause them distress. Their well-being and interests are no longer at the top of the list. You don’t think of them anymore and don’t even cherish the time you spend together.
5. Everything they do irritates you
No one is perfect, darlin’. But if your partner is annoying you just by breathing, it’s probably time to break it off. If all of their imperfections are glaring at you all the time and you can’t see anything good in them, your relationship is down in the dumpster anyway. Being in a relationship means you’ll have to spend some of the big, yet not-so-happy moments with your partner. But, if these things start feeling like a burden, that’s a clear sign you are falling out of love, poppet.
6. You give them the silent treatment
Communication is important in every relationship, but when you reach a point where silence is the only thing you can give your partner, it’s best to break it off. Meaningful conversations and effective communication is the key to making your relationship work. And ineffective communication, like giving your partner the silent treatment, does not bode well for your relationship. If you are no longer interested in conveying your thoughts to your partner, you’ve already given up on the relationship.
7. You are uncertain about your future with them
Talking about the future with your partner is a sign that you wish to spend a long time with your partner. A successful relationship is about building a future together. If you don’t see yourself with your partner in five or ten years, or if you see someone else in your future, the relationship is already doomed.
8. You are resentful and indifferent to them
People are not perfect and they often do things that displease you. But if you are constantly resentful of your partner, that’s not a good sign. Sure, an occasional venting session with your friends is fine, but if you are constantly complaining about your partner and nit-picking about every single thing they do and putting them down constantly, it’s time to take a long hard look at your relationship.
9. You are interested in someone else
Nothing screams falling out of love like falling in love with someone other than your partner. If you fall for someone else or are interested in someone else, it’s time to end the relationship. Darlin’, there’s no point in dragging a relationship if you are getting your kicks elsewhere. After all, it is unfair to your partner.
Falling out of love is heartbreaking, but it is also a part of life. It might cause you pain and negative emotions for a short while, but with time and effort, you can move on. Don’t try to hold on to a relationship that is dying, especially when neither of you is interested in reviving it. It’s best to cut your losses when you can and move on, love. Better things are waiting for you!
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