“Once a cheater, always a cheater” – do you remember this iconic line from FRIENDS? I’m sure you do but only when you’re dishing out dating advice to your friends. Khud kyun nahi yaad rakhte? Spouses who cheat are scum. Yeah, yeah, I know we’re talking about finding spouses on a dating app. But if a dating app is the first step to dating, then it’s also the first step to cheating. No normal adult goes on apps to make new friends, so stop falling for this ridiculous excuse. Cheating spouses deserve nothing more from you, because you’ve already given more than they deserve. Listen to this bachcha’s story and I’ll tell you what to do when your husband cheats.

 

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What to do when you find your husband cheating

It’s not easy but you have to follow these tips to make sure he doesn’t get away with it.

Keep your mouth shut

Do not confront this man about anything. Instead, start securing yourself. If you confront him, he will know you know and start cleaning up his filth. You want to catch him off-guard with all the dhool-mitti on his hands. Don’t go blabbing to your friends either. The walls have ears, beta ji. Stay normal in front of everyone. Cry quietly in the bathroom if you must.

Deposit your jewellery and other valuables with your parents or siblings

Don’t try to be a sant bahu and leave the jewellery his relatives gave you at the wedding. It is literally your streedhan by law. Pack it up and deposit it safely with your parents or siblings, the people you trust most in the world and who will always be on your side. But if you think your parents or siblings might slip up or you don’t want to tell them anything yet, find your most loyal girl bestie. Aurat hi aurat ke kaam aati hai in times of crisis.

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Hire a divorce lawyer to guide you

If you have kids with this gutter ka keeda, make sure your lawyer tells you exactly what to do to get custody. You also need to know what proof you need to get a divorce ruling in your favour. Gather as much proof as you can. Ask your lawyer what will work best–screenshots, emails, photos, anything at all. Then work on your jasoosi skills and patiently collect everything you need. Also, once again I urge you, don’t try to be a saint and forego alimony or maintenance. Beta ji, kaand usne kara hai. Consequences bhi wohi bhugtega.

Slowly take all your stuff out of the house

Make sure it’s nothing noticeable at first. Keep the most obvious items for the end, like any furniture or appliances that you’ve paid for. And of course, keep your lawyer in the loop. You don’t want to make a mistake that will cost you dearly later.

If you’ll notice I haven’t mentioned any tips on how to rekindle your love and save your marriage after your husband cheats. Love and marriage gayi ghaans charne. Your cheating husband made sure of that the minute he started swiping on a dating app. Save yourself and your future now.

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