Congratulations, bachche. You’re thinking of getting married. I presume that’s why you’re here. Otherwise, why do you want to know whether your girlfriend is “wife material” or not. Anyway, I’m always happy when a bachcha wants to get married to the person they think is their soulmate. Now comes the actual struggle – how to convince your family that she’s the one. Especially if she’s not falling head over heels trying to become the best bahu ever. Well, you can use this expert guide to a) find out whether she’s the one for you, and b) show your parents that the best Aunty in the world agrees with you. Here are the signs your girlfriend is wife material.

She fights you and calls you out when you’re wrong

If she calls you out for your weird hot takes, she’s the one for you. She fights you on matters of principle like your mildly sexist reaction to a woman’s promotion at work. She doesn’t care for oppressive traditions and will immediately drop anyone who tries to force them on her. The best way to test this quality is to crack a sexist joke in front of her. If her reaction is one that will make every man shiver in his pants, propose to her right now.

Bare minimum is not the gold standard for her

She doesn’t applaud you for doing normal adult jobs like cleaning up after yourself or sustaining yourself without your mummy to hold your hand. She doesn’t think that you’re a gift from the heavens for saying things like, “I want to be a hands-on dad when I have kids.” She also doesn’t worship the ground you walk on because you claim to be feminist. If you know that you or any other man will never be her “parmeshwar”, she’s the one.

She doesn’t take nonsense from anyone…not even your family

You know she respects your family, but you also know that if they disrespect her, she will make her displeasure known. Whether it’s her boss, colleagues, friends, her own family, or you, she doesn’t let anyone pull her down and make her think less of herself. No one can shatter that armour of confidence that she’s built around herself. And if she marries you, she will protect you with that armour as well. This is one of the most prominent signs your girlfriend is wife material.

She doesn’t put down other women to make herself look good

Like a true feminist! And it’s always good to have a feminist on your side. Believe it or not, feminism is against the patriarchy that burdens both women and men unfairly. Feminism is not about hating men, so calm down with your viral posts of men toiling in the sun and women chilling at home.

Her sole aim in life is not to be your wife…and she hates the term “wife material”.

She is living a full life of which you are a part. A significant part but still a part. She has a family, a career, friends, and her own goals in life that don’t always involve you. That’s the kind of woman who will be a partner and will motivate you too. Also, if the term “wife material” offends her, she’s smart. I hate it too, but it made you click, didn’t it?

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