It’s a big, bad world out there, bachche. And you have to know how to protect yourselves from one of the worst evils out there. Gold diggers. They pretend to love you and care for you but the only thing they want is your money. You might think you’re smart enough to spot one but a gold digger isn’t always easy to identify. And if you fail to spot a gold digger in time, it might be too late and you will lose your peace of mind (and life savings) forever. So, I am here to help you. Here are the signs of a gold digger and how you can save yourself from marrying the wrong person.
Did they ask about your financial status before talking about marriage?
The questions are not always obvious like, “How much do you or your father make?” Sometimes, the interrogation is subtle. Like, “Your family seems rich. Do you own more houses apart from the one you live in?” or “Wow, you’re so well-educated. Your parents must’ve spent a lot on your studies” or “Your brother’s/sister’s wedding looks SO grand. Your family spent a lot on the shaadi, na?” If you have heard any such statements from your significant other, please know, bachche, that you are falling for a gold digger. Run.
Do they think your money is their money but their money is their money?
This particular sign is a bit more complicated to spot. So, you will need to initiate this conversation yourself, beta ji. Ask your future spouse how to divide expenses and plan savings for the future when you start living together. If they suggest that you transfer a certain percentage of your salary to them every month for household expenses, ask them how much they will transfer to you. If they act all shocked and surprised and say that you won’t have access to their money but they will have a say in how you spend your money, please know that this is a scam and aap dhokha khaane wale hain.
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Are you expected to buy expensive gifts for them and their family members?
This generally comes up once the shaadi is fixed and they start saying things like, “Hamaare yahaan toh aise hota hai”. First, the ask will be small, like thoda sa sagan here and there. Then they will expect the “gifts” to get bigger, sometimes even as big as household appliances. You are not their financier or bhagwan, bachche. If they didn’t have these things before meeting you, they can probably survive without them. You don’t have to buy anything for this parasite or its family.
Do they keep saying that they will live a comfortable life after marriage while you work?
“Maid ke haath ka khaana hum nahi kha sakte.”
“We are very progressive. We are sure you can handle a career and manage the household.”
“I am very busy at work, so when I come back home, I just want to relax and do nothing.”
Golden words of gold diggers who want you to do everything for them AND make money for their family.
Kya hua? Did you think I was talking about women marrying men for money and getting huge alimonies? No, bachche. I’m talking about something that is MUCH more common than women scamming men for undeserved alimony. I’m here to warn the young girlies about actual gold diggers – men marrying women for money aka dowry aka “gifts”.
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