November 12, 2016

“Even if we could turn back, we’d probably never end up back where we started.” – Haruki Murakami

Our life is a journey and like every other occasion, the journey is more important than the destination. Where we reach is not as important as the experiences we gather on our way. Every challenge we face should be considered as an experience to grow. In this journey, it is not uncommon to have self-doubts. Many times we are in situations when we feel the need to fight or flight. However, delving deep into the intricacies of the psychology of the human mind  is not our motive today, that will be yet another story.

Right from our adulthood, we need to take decisions that would change the course of our lives. Hence, it is important to take the right path. But do we always do that? Sometimes situation and people around us influence our choices. The dilemma that we face at various crossroads of our journey is what we are discussing here today.

Anuradda Lilaa is a change catalyst, inspirational speaker, spiritual guide and an exceptional transformation coach at Journey to Miracles. She guides you to a greater insight of your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual life challenges.

Here’s what she has to say.

1. Passion Vs Parents – Whom should you listen to?

Career choices are to be made on the basis of what you are good at. Our parents also play an important role in this regard. They guide us, give us choices so that we take the right decision. But is it always that easy? Here are the two situations most of us face.

What if you follow what your heart desires, even though you know it is an unconventional choice and might not land you a job easily?

Fuck it your parents chose well for you and you should continue with it.

Anuradda says: “It is always right to follow your passion. If your parents do not agree with you, sit with them, tell them  what you would like to do. When you do something that involves your passion chances are that end results are better.”



2. Money or Time – What is more important to you?

Once our 9 to 5 routine starts, life changes. Considerable amount of your time goes to work. If you love what you do, then there is no question of dissatisfaction. However, that is not the case always. When you see your peers earning more than you, and living a better life, wouldn’t you want that too? Or is that shallow thinking?

What if you take a risk and go for a higher paid job?

Fuck it and be content with the life you have.

Anuradda says: ” It is about the choice we make. Wanting more won’t make you shallow, but you should do a job you really like, and not because your peers are doing it or because it pays well only. If you are content with your life, you are doing great. But make sure you have explored your potentials fully.”


3. Appearances do matter

Human beings are obsessed with their appearances, and not just their own. Judging people by how they look, not liking some  because they don’t look good are some of the vices that have seeped in our society. While wanting to look good is natural, suffering from low self-esteem because of appearances is not.

What if you were more beautiful? Would it change how people behaved towards you?

Fuck it if you are happy with how you are and do not care about what people say about your looks.

Anuradda says: “Wanting to look better is not bad. But what is more vital is self confidence. If you are aware how you look and carry yourself gracefully then you will earn a lot of respect. People will always have their opinion, and those with low self-esteem will ask for them.” 


4. What is marriage? Love or compromise

The institution of marriage is a lot more than bringing together people of opposite sex for the sake of making babies. But several people get stuck in it for the sake of their family, when there is nothing in it for them. This can be dangerous if the people who are involved refuse to take help from professionals and make their life better.

What if you still stay in your marriage and make it work? Not just for child or family but for yourself too?

Fuck it and break up because you have had enough!

Anuradda says: Breaking up is easy, but it takes strength to make something. Trying to make it work is necessary. However, there is a fine line between trying to make it work and being stuck in a hopeless marriage. Even if after several chances you are still hoping for a miracle to happen, then you are being unrealistic. Know where to draw the line and stop trying.”

Relationships are broken easily but takes years to build