November 14, 2016

Your 20s is the time when you should be soaring free like a bird – unfettered by responsibilities and no worries about the future. Fresh into “real life”, this is supposed to be a time of opportunity and adventure, a time when conquering the world is not just the stuff of comics and movies. But reality is far from this beautiful dream. Burdened with EMIs, anxious about jobs, relationships and debt, today’s generation struggles to breathe easy. Thus is born a “quarter life crisis”. Problems of loneliness, depression, insecurities, disappointments are commonly affecting the twenty and thirty somethings.

So what should you do when you find yourself in such a situation? It’s time to overhaul your life. Read on to know more:

quarter life crisis

Identification of the crisis

Phase 1

When you’re living on “autopilot” and feel “locked in” by your life choices, like a job or a relationship.

Phase 2

Typified by an impending sense of turning your life around for the better, the second phase it is characterized by all sorts of emotional upheavals, creating a possibility of self exploration.

Phase 3

A period of rebuilding your life from scratch.

Phase 4

Developing new commitments that are more in line with your interests and aspirations and values.

However, these pre-midlife blues are not all bad. You emerge out of this vicious monster’s mouth after giving a tough fight, wiser and braver than before. For those of you who are currently feeling trapped, follow these simple steps to turn your life around.

1. Unlearn to Learn

The first step to solving a quarter life crisis is understanding that you have been conditioned to believe what the society wants you to believe in. Understand that your reality can be whatever you want it to be. Try to look at the world with a new perspective. Learn to make your own decisions and generate your own ideas.

2. Back to School

Explore your interests and take a course in whatever your heart finds delightful. It can be anything – learning to play the guitar, painting, dancing, cooking. You can find any online courses based on your diverse interest on platforms such as Udemy or Coursera.

3. Take the Leap

Now is the time when you really understand what it is that you would rather fancy yourself doing. This is the right moment to get up and do something about it because by now you know very well what it takes to get there. You are aware of the struggle and the long journey it’ll require but the fruits that it will bear in the end will make it all worth it.

4. Remember all is Relative

“Normalcy” is overrated. Don’t be afraid to break the stereotype and believe in something and let your life be governed by those beliefs. Just remember-

“The woods are lovely, dark and deep,

But I have promises to keep,

And miles to go before I sleep,

And miles to go before I sleep.”

5. Invest in Yourself

It is high time to start believing and trusting yourself. Invest your time, money and energy on building the best possible version of you. Resources used on oneself never go to waste, even if it means taking some time off to relax or contemplate. Only a healthy body, mind and soul can carve out the path to a complete wellness and a sense of self.

6. Don’t Take Expectations Too Seriously

Worried about your self-expectations expectations or those that others might have of you? This will only lead you deeper into the rut. Instead of evading or trying too hard, take a minute and approach the situation with a realistic attitude and accept that this is who you are. Self realization is extremely essential in order to break this cycle of disappointment and depression.

quarter life crisis

In the end you will emerge victorious and as the saying goes, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, isn’t it?